I had a date with a girl last night from OKStupid. (We’ll get to why I’m calling it that a little later.) We had talked on the phone twice earlier this week and had decent conversations. Nothing the blew my hair back about them. She sounded a little standoffish. But she also sounded intelligent and looked attractive in her pics. Cocktails and a bite to eat, why not?
Name on the list. 30 minute wait. Into the bar for drinks. Our conversations were light on the phone. It got heavy and deep real quick in person, which was fine. The problem was she would ask me questions about certain subjects that I would answer. But when I asked her the same things, she didn’t want to answer. She would turn the question back around on me again. Then, she would knock my answers.
I started to get a little uncomfortable and it just wasn’t going well. I think she sensed this and she said, “It seems like you can’t take the heat, do you want to get out of the kitchen?” I said that I can take the heat, but this kitchen just isn’t really my style. To which she said, “You’re not really my style either. Guys like you are why the site should be called OKStupid.” Then she launched into a short spiele about how she can’t find someone on her level of intelligence… blah, blah, blah. Just then the hostess came up to us. Paul party of 2. I said you can change that to bitter party of 1. I threw down the money for our drinks and walked.
Now I don’t claim to be a rocket scientist. But I have a brain and know how to use it. But when she made the OkStupid remark, I took a little offense to it as I don’t liked to be lumped into any type of group with that kind of negative connotation attached to it. At the time I was also a little pissed at myself because I broke one of my online dating codes which is if it’s kind of awkward on the phone, it’s probably not going to be good in person. That’s just the experiences I’ve had and this last date totally validated that.
I don’t think I was wrong in walking out. But I’m wondering, how do other people handle dates that aren’t going well. Do you stick it out? Or do leave when it becomes unbearable?
Back to the online drawing board.