First off, THANK YOU to those that offered your opinions about the “thank you” post.
In the most non confrontational way, I brought it up after dinner at a quiet bar over a cocktail. I flat out asked her why she doesn’t say “thank you” when someone does something for her. I didn’t say there was something bothering me. It was a straight up question. She said she thinks it in her head, but that she gets caught up in the moment when the action is happening and forgets to say it, sometimes. (Never in my presence has she said it.) She said she needs to say it. Okay fine. She smiles and I think to myself that I’m going to let it go.
But then she says someone brought it up to her before. I wanted to ask why she didn’t start saying it after that. But I didn’t. I thought I will wait and see if she starts saying it. It wasn’t too awkward. I felt like it should have been though, for her. I’m wondering if it hit home with her. Or because I made it easy and didn’t get into how I feel it’s manners 101 and common sense to say it, that she didn’t think I thought it was a big deal when I do in fact think it’s kind of a big deal.
I’ll keep everyone posted on what happens. THANK YOU for reading this:)