Most of my posts are usually goofy bad dating stories. This one’s kinda serious. I’m not exactly sure how to put it. So I just will.
Without getting into too much detail, I had some issues with family members from the past. Those family members are now trying to make amends for some stuff they did that I took a lot of the blame for.
I read up on self forgiveness and I’ve tried some of the stuff I’ve read. I received some apologies from the family members involved and I said I appreciated their apology. But I’ve blamed myself for some of what happened for years. Now I’m supposed to just say, “Okay, you’re forgiven.” And I let myself off the hook for this stuff as well. I thought I did that years ago. But now that these people have resurfaced, it’s dredging up all these old feelings.
In theory, it makes sense. You except responsibility for what happened, but you let it go and not guilt yourself over it. I think that’s easier said than done. How do you just let stuff go? Anyone been in a similar situation? Anyone have any tips on self forgiveness? It would be much appreciated.